Fixing Our Reaching During a Spanking Problem

My wife used to reach her hand back during spankings ALL the time.  It drove me crazy.  Sure, I understood at first.  I mean, when something causes you pain, you do what you can to put a stop to whatever that something is.  Right?  So, when we were first getting comfortable with spanking, her reaching her hand back didn’t bother me so much.

  After a couple of months, however, it started getting old.  Really old.  I was tired of reminding her to keep her hand out of the way when I was spanking her.  I almost struck her hand with our wooden paddle a couple of times, too.  It got to the point where I felt she was doing it on purpose since it gave her a miniature break between strikes.  Not a very long break, but enough of a break that it likely made it easier for her to deal with the spanking.  Needless to say her reaching was becoming a potential safety problem in addition to it being extremely annoying to deal with.

  I didn’t know how to go about fixing this reaching problem.  The punishment options I was comfortable with didn’t seem to fit the “crime.”  I tried corner time after the spanking a couple of times to address it, but the results were lukewarm at best.  Bedroom time and removing privileges, for this particular problem, didn’t make sense to me.  I didn’t think either one of those punishments would help.  I surely wasn’t going to restrain her in some fashion, either.  That isn’t something either of us were/are comfortable with.  I was already spanking her, so spanking didn’t seem logical either.  I was stumped.

  At the time we were spanking over clothing.  We were spanking over very light clothing like pajama pants and other kinds of lounge wear, but clothing nonetheless.  We weren’t at the point where we were comfortable spanking bare bottomed.  At the time we were still new at this and we simply weren’t ready for that yet.

  So here we were with a reaching problem and no plan in place to fix it.  One thing I did know was that me regularly telling her to keep her hand out of the way wasn’t working.  It would maybe work for the remainder of that spanking, but the very next time I spanked her it would happen again.  I knew I had to come up with something.

  I tried adding strikes to the end of the spanking.  I’d get to the stopping point, then I’d verbally tell her that the following strikes were for reaching her hand back.  After a few more strikes, we wrapped up the spanking and that was that.  This approach was more effective than the corner time after the spanking, but it still didn’t fix the problem long term.  I was growing more and more frustrated, and I was running out of ideas.

  I used the additional strikes at the end of the spanking for another month or so, but it wasn’t giving the results I was looking for.  Her reaching wasn’t as bad at this point, but it was still happening from time to time.  I wanted it to stop and stop completely.  I knew I had to do something out of the ordinary to get this problem fixed.  Something different that my wife wouldn’t expect.  Something more intense.  

  I had to compromise with myself.  I didn’t want to escalate the spankings into bare bottomed ones yet.  I wasn’t ready for that, and I knew my wife wasn’t either.  We were taking things slow with the whole domestic discipline thing.  We didn’t “jump right in” to anything we were uncomfortable with, and one of those things was spanking bare bottomed.  So we took our time.  But, with that said, I knew it was going to take something drastic (well, drastic to us at the time) to fix this persistent reaching problem of ours.

  I thought about it a lot and the best compromise (with myself) that I could come up with was spanking her bare bottomed for a few strikes immediately after she reached her hand back.  If she reached, I would strike bare bottomed four or five times, then I’d go back to spanking over the clothes.  Seemed like a reasonable solution to me.  It was a clear separation of the two problems and it was an immediate consequence to her action.  It wasn’t a full on bare bottomed spanking, either.  Perfect.

  The next time I went to spank, I warned Chelsea before I began spanking her that if she reached her hand back she would be punished for it.  I didn’t tell her how she would be punished, just that she would be.  Despite my warning, she still reached her hand back in the middle of the spanking.  What a shocker.

  Right after I told her to move her hand out of the way, I grabbed the waist band on her pajamas and pulled them down.  Chelsea looked back and asked what I was doing.  I told her that I was spanking bare for her reaching.  We had a very brief conversation about the situation and I went on with the bare bottomed strikes.  After a few of them, I pulled her pajamas back up and finished the rest of the original spanking.  That was that.

  Later that night we talked about what happened.  I was clear to her that my patience with her reaching had run out and I wanted it to stop.  She wasn’t exactly thrilled with our “new way” of spanking, but she admitted that it worked.  She said it made her think about her reaching problem, and she said and she wasn’t going to do it anymore.  That was music to my ears.  Looking back on it, I think we can pinpoint this entire experience as our transitioning point into bare bottomed spankings.

  Reaching wasn’t an issue for months after that.  After a while, on some of the more intense spankings it would happen every now and again, but it was rare.  She knew reaching her hand back would only make the spanking worse.  The message had gotten through and we had finally gotten this problem under control.  Our spankings went a lot smoother after that.